I also knew what it was like to be somewhere foreign, waiting for the person you used to be to show up. It was something that connected us.
Tumblr is a promiscuous yearning machine, untroubled by such random juxtapositions as 1920s flappers, a young Marlon Brando, an aging Ron Burgundy, rich Japanese impressions of French desserts, an idyllic tropical beach, stills from Czech New Wave films, a random steampunk cosplay selfie with sepia filter, a three-second grab from a 1980s anime film, sad Etsy boyfriends, a baby elephant tripping over its ears, supermodels tripping over their heels, a teenage girl proudly showing the scars from a recent suicide attempt, the kinds of old timey objects you’d find in Wes Anderson movies (gramophones, hat boxes, vintage sextants, etc.), and, of course, cats. Lots and lots of cats.
I hope I can be clear about this, but my thoughts all day have been a bit muddled, so I apologize if I express myself poorly or come off as defensive or anything.
1. There are deeply problematic relationship dynamics glorified in Twilight.
2. Criticizing misogyny in art is good and important.
3. My concern is that popular work by women receives far more vitriolic criticism from the public (like, in terms of number of demeaning jokes made by Jay Leno*) than popular work created by men.
4. So I think we’re talking about two different kinds of criticism: The totally legitimate criticism we see in literary journals and feminist web sites about misogyny, and the demeaning and dismissive this-sucks-because-teen-girls-like-it-and-everyone-knows-that-teen-girls-are-not-fully-human criticism we see in popular culture.
5. Also, I would like to see equal attention given to the sexism in popular work by men, from Nicholas Sparks to for instance J. D. Salinger. Catcher in the Rye—although I like it very much—is profoundly and disturbingly misogynistic and yet seems to get a critical pass both online and off. This happens a lot, I think, with books by men, and I don’t want male writers (including me!) to get that pass.
6. I might be wrong about any/all of this. I’m wrong a lot, and always trying to learn.
*EDIT: Apparently Jay Leno has retired. You learn something new every day.
I’m not a teen girl anymore, but nevertheless, thanks for phrasing this well: “I think we’re talking about two different kinds of criticism: The totally legitimate criticism we see in literary journals and feminist websites about misogyny, and the demeaning and dismissive this-sucks-because-teen-girls-like-it-and-everyone-knows-that-teen-girls-are-not-fully-human criticism we see in popular culture.”